i just read my bff blog just now.... i never knew she was that good... i mean... it's good.. she wrote what she felt.. it was very honest...
she's having a hard time in her love life... and since we are very close to each other.. we talk about it.. we cried and we even laugh about it.. i always think that i understand her situation because i've been there... i know.. but after reading her blog... i realised that i actually don't.. i don't know.. hmmm....
we always talk about each other's relationship... because that's what girls do.. we share... huhuhu... but selalu.. bila someone ade masalah.. or breaking up.. anda bagi nasihat... mse tu..dye dgr btol2.. ye2 je nie... macam hafal setiap perkataan... tapi last2... dia tak ikot.. kemudian bila masalah datang lagi selepas tu anda rase annoyed sgt... and often.. ayat nie keluar..." kan aku da cakap" atau omputih ckp "see...i told u so"..
selalu bile kite dengar masalah orang.. kita akan fikir..
"demm.. apelah.. mende mcmtu pon xbole nak selesaikan... ape susah.. buat jela mcm nie... mcm tu.. ngengade!! kalau aku...."
kite slalu fikir that kite lebih baik.. we always think that we can handle that situation better than that person..that we can react better if it happen to us.. but actually... we are dead wrong...
every person has their own way of solving problem... ade yg berdepan dgn masalah tu.. ade yg berbincang dgn org terdekat... and ade jugak yang pendamkan saje... setiap orang tak same...
kaki anda dan kaki saye tak same...
(sebab tu kasut ade mcm2 saiz.. )
muka anda dan muka saya tak same..
(sebab tu fazura dapat anak raje dan saye dapat anak cikgu... )
otak saya dan otak anda tak same..
(sebab tu chia woon yg tdo dlm class addmath dpt 100 and saye yg bersengkang mate nie dpt 40 je...)
kalau dah fizikal kita masing2 jaoh berbeza.. apetah lagi hati dan perasaan... so.. in relationship.. jgn pelik bila ade org yg bergaduh bagai nak berbunuh boleh balik semula bersama... dan ade org yang berpisah selamanya kerana semangkuk maggi...
kita tak boleh nak samakan situasi orang dengan situasi kita... kita tak bolehla nak cakap "eh.. kalau aku.. aku tinggalkn je laki mcm tu... tak patah balik punye"
sebab itu bkn kita... itu dia... dan itu laki dia.. bukan laki kita.. kita tak tahu ape yang dia tahu... kita tak rase ape yang dia rase.. kalau kita tahu dan rase.. mayb kita sedang berkongsi laki sekarang... haaa.. dlm situasi tu.. bru bole ckp "aku faham perasaan ko.. laki mu laki ku juaaaaa... " hahaha...
so... next time... when someone told you their problem.. don't judge them... we don't know what they had been through.. mungkin kita igt kita tahu sebab dia dah ceritakan segalanya... but believe me... itu bukan segalanya... ade lagi yang tak diceritakan.. there's alway an untold story behind... something too private to talk about...
but ape yg kita boleh buat.. bagi nasihat dari sudut pandangan kita... and support the decision that they have made...either untuk kembali bersama.. atau berpisah selamanya... sebab hanya mereka yang tahu ape yang terbaik untuk mereka.. ape yang sihat untuk hati dan perasaan mereka...
masing-masing sudah dewasa... bijak... ade cita-cita dan keinginan masing-masing... kalau keinginan masing-masing tak sama... ikot haluan masing-masing.. jangan bergaduh dan bermakian... x datang ape faedah... Jangan membenci... maafkan diri dan bekas pasangan masing-masing... berterima kasih atas kebahagiaan yg pernah dikecapi bersama... dan lepaskan diri masing-masing.. cari kebahagiaan anda...
Mmg susah.. Selepas bercinta bertahun-tahun... Spending years loving someone... When you broke up... It won't turn off just like that.. It will hurt... Really bad.. Break up sucks.. But it happened anyway...so.. Suck it up!!
walaupun susah pada mulanya... it will get better... tak kira berapa lama masa yang diambil.. seminggu... sebulan... setahun... ataupun lebih... it will get better... trust me.. Kita manusia ciptaan terhebat allah... Kita kuat... Kan?? So.. Hadap je.. One day at a time... Life is too short to be sad and pathetic.. Don't waste it for someone who don't love you... Find someone else who does.. Be happy.. Get married... Make love.. have cute babies... And live happily ever after.. Okeh...
P/s: to my bff... I love you guys a lot... Know that i will always be there for you... Walaupon jaoh... Tapi... Aku di hatimu... Cewaaahhhh... Hahahaha...
Love,
Shepah
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